Hope For a Kidney Transplant?

I am often around people who tell me there is no hope, that their business is in trouble, their wife left them and they are broke. Add the fact that they are sick and, with eyes cast down, they mumble that all hope is gone.

Inside, I am so anxious to tell these people that there is hope, that their destiny is in their own hands and that their life is not dependent on the economy or some imaginary┬ásystem they often malign. I want to say this, but I usually do not. And even though I know better, my experience is that there are some people in the world who will always look outside themselves for answers. If the sun is out, if they could only see the ocean, if the economy was only better. If–it leads nowhere.

All of these situations people blame for their demise are a result of somebody or something else which they have no control.  Rarely do you hear somebody tell you that they feel terrible and as a result of their choice, they are now unemployed. I would love to hear from people who take and accept responsibility for their actions which in turn create their world.

Somebody told me that their New Year’s resolution was to be kind and shortly after they launched into a story of gossip about somebody who they did not like. I wondered when this kindness would take place and finally asked this individual about the resolution. Their response was that it would take place. They were working on it.

We don’t suddenly achieve a goal. We become the goal. Ghandi taught us that to hope for peace, we have to live this concept. Our peaceful actions beget others to follow and the same is true about hope.

We have to begin to have hope now-even when the room is dark, know that light will come. Become hopeful by your actions and thoughts. Do it everyday. If you wait till tomorrow there will always be another day you live without hope. You must believe.

I watched my son receive a kidney transplant in 183 days. This time period was from diagnosis to the surgical table. People ask me how this could possibly get done. How in the world does something like this happen when the average waiting list for a kidney transplant is eight years?

You may not like the answer, but it is simple. It is because he believed he could do it and just like many who believe they cannot, both are correct. Life is what we make it and we are the creators of everything that happens to us in this lifetime. If you do not believe this, think about the last situation that turned bad for you and if you can be very honest, ask others about your role in that situation.

Divorce, job loss, health, where we live and how we live our lives. It is all up to each one of us. Kidney’s might be in short supply, but they are available. There are people in the world who are willing to donate a kidney and you do not need to know why they would do so. Your job is to believe it is possible and to work toward better health and an eventual transplant.