My Family and Kidney Disease

This entry is part 4 of 5 in the series Toni B

How do I tell my family that I am in Renal Failure? I feel ashamed and know they are going to just tell me it’s my fault. 

Just do it! Unless you live completely alone and there is absolutely no other human you know, besides your doctor, it is imperative that you share the diagnosis with people you spend time with, especially if you eat meals with others a any type of gathering.

Shame and Blame are big words for lots of people. Within yourself, you know how this disease came about. If you could have done something to prevent these consequences, take responsibility now to do all you can to learn all you can to ensure a better health outcome in the future. However, if this diagnosis was a surprise you found out about in the Emergency Room, take responsibility now to do all you can to learn all you can to ensure a better health outcome in the future.

At this point, Blame and Shame is not the point. The point is to grab a hold of this diagnosis and let it know you are all in, and you are an active participant in your health care. We live in the moment, the past is gone and nothing we can do will change it, except making better choices in the future.

Decide that you want to live and make the necessary choices to live as well as possible. There is plenty of information to assist you on your journey.

Start by taking with your health care team and then take your family members alone to appointments to help them gain further information and understanding about the disease, treatment and needs you might have.